Getting Him to Ask You out
Have you ever made a great connection with the guy only to have him take off without exchanging numbers, e-mail exchange or hey, let's have a coffee next week? The fact is that this happens to women all the time. Chemistry and run and we are not quite sure why. Well let’s try and shed some light on that. The following is a list of potential ideas as to why he doesn't ask you out and what you can do about it.
#1: You've batted your eyes and laughed at his jokes. You've pretended to be interested when he talked about the playoff games. So how is it possible that he doesn't know you're into him? Women should not overestimate the power of men's intuition. It is often the case that men will not ask women out due to lack of confidence. Often a man needs to be at least 90% sure that a woman will say yes.
Fixing it: Give men complements that they cannot miss. Point out how great that shirt looks on him, or how great that tie is. Those simple moves may encourage a man to ask you out. If that doesn't work, than you may want to try the long stare. Constantly making eye contact and maintaining that eye contact will reinforce to a man that you are interested in him.
#2: He may be clueless as to how to ask you out. Although you may meet a man who gives you attention, talks to you, and spends half the night with you. He may actually have no idea how to go about simply asking you out on a date. Another scenario may be. He's not sure what you would like to do or where you would like to go.
Fixing it: Make it simple and easy for the man to ask you out. During the conversation say things like, have you heard that such and such movie has been released. Or I understand, they just opened a new coffee shop or ice cream shop or restaurant in such and such location. This will give the man you're talking to an opportunity to think about some of the things you like and suggest a place to go if he's interested.
#3: Are you intimidating him? You may not even know it but you may very well be too intimidating for him to ask. Regardless of how interested you are. The fact is, you may have a real job with real responsibilities while he still is a grad student struggling to survive. And then again, he may be shy and reserved, while your outgoing and the life of the party. Regardless of the reason, if a man suspects he is less than a man compared to you, his ego will not allow him to ask you out.
Fixing it: It may be apparent to you that you don't care what income bracket he falls in or whether he rents or owns his own home. However, you can not simply just blurt this out in the middle of a conversation. So take a different approach. Ask questions about him, what he likes, what he does express interest in him. Keep them talking about something, this will prove your interest in him. And should give him the encouragement he needs to ask you out. |
